The issue of the importance of the father’s upbringing of a girl, unfortunately, is not given due attention in society, since motherly upbringing of a daughter is traditionally considered a priority. And this is true, however, there are those key moments in the upbringing of a girl, the responsibility for which lies with the father, and the mother, no matter how hard she tries, will not be able to replace the father in them.
The fact is that it is the relationship with the father that fundamentally influences the formation of the daughter as a future woman, her further relationships with men and the choice of a life partner. All of these factors are crucial in a woman’s life.
Let us consider in more detail: how relations with the father affect the fate of the daughter.
Let’s start with the fact that the father is the first and most significant example of a man in the life of his daughter. The responsibility is enormous. If only all fathers knew this…
The image of the father and the relationship «father-daughter» in childhood set many programs and attitudes for the communication of an adult woman with the opposite sex. It is good if the settings and programs are correct and useful. And if not?
In the life of an adult daughter, problems of a different nature may arise. Let’s try to figure it out.
Let’s assume an ideal option: a complete family, parents take part in raising their daughter together, family relations are harmonious, dad is wise and loving.
Of course, it can be difficult to understand father’s love, it is different from mother’s. But even the restrained, not very emotionally colored love of the father is felt, perceived and absorbed by the daughter. A daughter for a loving father is a princess, this is his (and therefore) an ideal female creation: the most beautiful, most beloved, most-most … in everything and always, this is his pride, this is the light of his soul.
In turn, paternal love gives the girl a sense of security, security, self-confidence, self-worth; develops femininity, attractiveness, demand and success.
Next to a loving father, the girl grows up, realizing that she is worthy of the love of the opposite sex. When a daughter sees, feels and knows that the most significant man in life, her father, loves and accepts her for who she is, the girl learns to love and accept herself, and, importantly, learns to accept the love and attention of the opposite sex.
A father for a girl is the whole WORLD. And if this world loves and accepts her, is always ready to help and protect, then she is not afraid of anything. She goes into adulthood without fear, with the knowledge that everything will be fine, she will always find support and support, because the whole world is on her side.
A positive program learned in childhood will work throughout life for the benefit of an adult woman.
Such a woman will attract loving men to her, who will become her support, support in life and will take constant care of her.
Another very important aspect of a girl’s upbringing is the father’s relationship with her mother.
A girl needs to see that her father loves her mother. Observing the love of a father for a mother, every child experiences a sense of security, joy, happiness and harmony in the world. Any manifestation of dislike for the mother on the part of the father causes pain to the daughter, which, accumulating, can become an insurmountable wall in the relationship between father and daughter.
Dear fathers, it is very important in relation to mothers to show daughters how a man shows love and attention to a woman. This is how a girl develops a model of relationships between a man and a woman, which she will learn for life, like all other models of relationships in the family.
If “love and attention” in the family manifests itself in the form of discontent, nagging or rudeness, this lesson will also be learned: such a model of relations will become natural for a mature woman in the future.
You have noticed that our whole conversation periodically returns to love. If a girl feels a lack or absence of paternal love, she grows up insecure, depressed, downtrodden, withdrawn or, on the contrary, openly aggressive, denying and suppressing the male essence.
How often a young and beautiful girl has to be convinced that she is beautiful, smart, worthy of love and attention of the opposite sex, while a completely outwardly inconspicuous girlfriend arouses interest among young people, freely communicates with them and does not complex about her shortcomings. appearance.
A girl who felt a lack of paternal attention and love in childhood grows up with a sense of her defenselessness, with fear of the vast world and the unpredictability of life. Everything is given to her by great personal work, because she does not know how to ask for help, does not wait for support and relies only on herself. Success in life becomes difficult. Personal life is also not easy.
Alertness and distrust of men often lead a woman to control her husband, suppress him, take on male responsibilities. This is especially common in the case when the girl was brought up only by her mother, who “dragged all the hardships of life” or when the father was in the family, but the mother all the time had to “plow” herself in relations with him.
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